The following are warning signs that indicate you may be abusive:
-Your partner checks up on you frequently. This may include listening to your phone calls, checking your car mileage or making you explain where you have been all of the time.
-Your partner often puts you down, including calling you names, humiliate and/or criticize you in public or in private.
-Your partner controls where you go and who you talk to.
-Your partner destroys or threatens to destroy your things.
-Your partner threaten to hurt or actually hurt you, your family members, friends or pets.
-Your partner scares you.
-Your partner blames you or others for their problems.
-Your partner puts down your fears or concerns about your relationship.
-Your partner forces you to have sex in ways that are not comfortable for you.
-Your partner spends a lot of time and energy making up for abusive things he/she has done to you or others.
FACT: only a small percentage of perpetrator are actually mentally ill or psychopaths. Abusive behavior is learned behavior. Most perpetrators either experienced or witnessed abuse growing up. They learned that using power and control techniques work to manipulate and get what you want from people. They learned that being controlling and abusive is acceptable behavior.
